Real talk time, y’all.
I’m confessing this, because what’s the fun in being a Mary Sue that has no weaknesses? Yes, I blog about my life to encourage others. A portion of said encouragement is being transparent about my shortcomings and how I try to overcome them.
With that said, I confess…
I am a lazy girl.
If I had my way about it, I would lay around, read a bunch of romance novels, eat macaroni and cheese, and take plenty of naps. Oh, and I wouldn’t gain a pound either! (This IS my dream and all.)
That’s what I wish to do some days. You know the ones. The laundry is piling up, someone has spilled milk for the fifth time in the last hour, getting school work done is like pulling teeth – you get the gist. Some days I just want to lay around and do a whole lot of nothing.
Throw anxiety on top of that and it’s especially rough. Those are the days I want to consult Dr. Google about a disease which appeared that morning in the shower.
Kind of like Cameron from Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.
[Pause for absolutely necessary movie quote: You’re not dying, you just can’t think of anything good to do.]
I’ve had people tell me I’m motivated or I don’t know when to slow down, but I know the opposite to be true. I’m naturally a lazy person. I don’t wake up with any extra energy or special determination to get the job done. If I don’t force myself, I hitch a ride on the struggle bus as I juggle anxiety, depression, and digging deep to find motivation.
As a homeschool mom of three who wears many hats, my weaknesses are revealed front and center each day. So, do I succumb to them? Do I accept that I’m not a super motivated person and accomplish nothing? Do I let my life pass me by without ever accomplishing goals? Do I just coast through?
Ahhh. Sometimes I do. I’m not going to lie.
With that said, I have learned motivation is not something which will appear out of thin air. No person was born with an extra bit of oomph to get them out of bed in the morning. You simply have to decide to go for it.
The Bible speaks a lot on this very topic and each time I run across these verses, they step on my toes. The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 was described as someone who “eateth not the bread of idleness.” In other words, she stayed busy. Whether her job was selling merchandise or caring for her children, she continued to remain on task. She was no different than us and because she was human, she had days where she fell short. It wasn’t about her perfection as a mother or even a perfectly clean house. (She had kids and probably a lot of them considering the time this was written. You think there weren’t messes and days she wanted to rip her hair out?) The virtue of the Proverbs 31 woman was that she remained diligent in her work and sought the Lord to help her do so.
With that said, what do I do to keep motivated? I know my weaknesses, I know the areas I struggle in. How do I change it?
Here are some things I am trying to implement in my life to get motivated each day and accomplish my goals.
- Give it to the Lord. In my 8 years of being a mom, I have experienced my fair share of overwhelming mornings. (Today maybe?) I am sure you can picture the long to do list and your blood pressure rising as you see the work ahead. Stop right there and pray. Be honest with the Lord and ask for help. Get in the Word, seek encouragement from Him. Turn on some uplifting music and get your mind in a good place!
- Wake up early. I shared this on my post about self-care for homeschool moms, but it’s just too good not to share again. I love to sleep like anyone else. Waking up at the butt crack o’ dawn is not my favorite thing. However, getting those extra hours in the morning to get my mind in a good place is vital. I also try to get some light cleaning done and my workout out of the way (so I can forget about sweaty torture for the rest of the day). Having that extra bit of time has been a game changer for my productivity. As opposed to waking up with the kids and running around in a tizzy, I can ease into my day. Though I hate rolling out of bed each morning, it is truly my favorite time of the day.
- Keep everything on a timed schedule. This is for our homeschooling, but it truly keeps me on track and prevents getting into a habit of procrastinating. I’m THE WORST about that. But if I know I only have a certain amount of time to sweep the floors or get laundry folded, I’ll hustle. Even though I’m a stay at home mom and my job is 24/7, the hours seem to blur together and fly by. The idea which says we have all day is deceiving. I have to make time if I’m going to get anything done.
- Stay moving. When it’s the busy portion of our day, I try to avoid watching tv or spending time on my phone. Why? I will sit down for just a moment and find myself still sitting there two hours later. Ahhhhh! Two hours lost! I’m about killing time, but not like that! With all of that said, I have to keep on moving. There is a time for rest and quiet time, but I need to stay productive otherwise.
- Take quiet/rest time. Uh, didn’t I just say I stay moving? Yes! But there is also a wonderful time of day where I tell the kids to lay down and be quiet! Naps seem to be hit and miss, so those are a rare occurrence these days. However, a few minutes to chill, zone out into a good book, eat a snack, sip on coffee … WHATEVER! I need it! It helps me refocus for the remainder of my day and push forward until that blessed bedtime hour.
I’m not a know it all, super motivated, go get ’em chick. By default, I’m a lazy girl who sees the value in putting forth the effort to accomplish goals. It’s not always easy, but the end result is priceless. I feel accomplished, confident, and a little stronger as I head into the next day. Implementing these ideas have also been essential in helping me cope with anxiety and keeping my mind in a better place.
What about you? Do you struggle with the temptation to be lazy? Or are you one of the lucky ones who spring out of bed each morning with sheer determination as your driving force? If so, share your wisdom!
And no, I’m not knocking those days when you need to lay around and eat a bowl of mac and cheese. They do come and I embrace them. Willingly. But life must be lived, the little guys have to be taught and our minds need to stay out of trouble.
I have been blessed with a good life and I don’t want to miss a moment of it.